Today we have a deficit of people paying attention to what others are doing and caring about them. Few people seem genuinely interested in others because, well, they just aren’t
However, for those who are awake enough to pay attention to the needs of others, noticing them and really caring, there are many advantages. You will stand out in a favorable way and be noticed yourself. You will be uniquely and beautifully different.
In this video I share an idea how you can practice noticing others and how it will help. I build on the idea based on a wonderful article I share written by Angela Maiers. I don’t know her, but I like the way she thinks.
I also mention a great book that I just finished called The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene. WOW! What a wonderful book from a great author. He writes about seeing people for who they are and not judging them. He entreats us to embrace reality (what a concept!). I share that also here.
Enjoy this video. It has ideas in it that can change your life for the better. Please share this and I look forward to getting your thoughts.
Terry L. Brock, MBA, CSP, CPAE
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Transcript – The Power of Noticing
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Terry Brock here and hope you are doing well today. Hey, I want to share something with it.
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You’re going to like you are going to enjoy this. I was reading an article the other day. One of the beautiful things about the internet is there’s so many really good concepts out there so many good article, sometimes there’s
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Too many. But hey, it’s wonderful that they are available and we can tap into these and get information on them. I was reading one that I want to share with you that I think is just
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Really specialist about the power of noticing.
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Noticing others and caring about them. Really, that’s what it is. Hang on a minute, I’m going to share my screen with you right now and bounce over here and I want to bounce over to this.
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Article here is called the power of noticing written by someone. I do not know, but I like her already.
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Angela Myers or mayor’s. I’m not sure how you pronounce that and Angela. If you do see this, please excuse me for not pronouncing your name properly, but I hope it’s there, but I want you to take. Check this out, because it’s really got some nice
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Features you over to her site there and it’s called slash blog slash the dash power dash of dash noticing dot HTML. So you can see that URL there.
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But she talks about the importance of looking at someone in really paying attention to them being there too often we don’t even pay attention to people when they’re talking to us when they’re
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Coming to us, they’re talking to us. We’ve got our own mind made up of what we’re going to say much better to listen to what they have to say. I like what Angela said here when she says
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That the next time you send a tweet meet a friend or have the chance to learn with another plan to notice more. I’m going to highlight that right there.
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Plan to notice more use your eyes. Use your ears use all your senses and this one, do not hesitate to say to another. I noticed you
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And I compliment her for doing that and think that this is a really good idea because we don’t have enough of that in our world today too often.
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We’re arguing with each other in this society, particularly here in America. People are screaming and shouting at each other.
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It’s really a mess. It’s people that are constantly out there talking about what’s going on what they want to say. And they don’t really notice the other person.
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They’re not noticing that another person is there that could help them that they could help. And when you notice someone and you genuinely care for them.
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You are helping them and that is one of the best ways of selling my buddy Jay Baer talks about that. Hi, Jay. I hope you’re doing well. If you’re watching this
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He says that helping is the new selling and really when you get down to it, the best salespeople.
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Are those who really help not just trying to hawk some good or flog it out there to them. But what they’re trying to do is to
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Listen, and then help them like Angela said in her article when listen to that other person. I like the way my buddy.
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Chris Brogan talks about he says we need to grow bigger ears.
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I like that we need to listen more. There’s an old saying that’s been used in sales. A lot. You’ve probably heard this that we have two ears two eyes and one mouth, and that’s the proportion that we should use them.
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listen more to other people. Some of you that have followed me for a while. No, I often talk about the people who have what I call I trouble.
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Now I don’t mean I, as an E y E i mean i did this and I did that and I’m doing this. And I do that, you know, that’s all they’re talking about. They don’t really care about anyone else.
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They only are interested in themselves. Matter of fact, here’s a little trick you can use kind of an inside ninja trick when you’re in a conversation with some pay attention to how often they use the word I
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Versus the US you and talk about you and follow up and also find out how often they really follow up when you mentioned something I’ve had people. I remember I was in a conversation at a coffee shop, a while back.
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Many years ago, and there was this woman that I had seen at a meeting and some meeting where I was speaking and she came up said hi Terry I’m up whatever I only remember a name now but
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We’re naming we sat down and she just went on and on and on and on and on incessantly about herself. She didn’t care about me. I thought
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I’m just kind of curious how long she’s going to go on and she’s out there. Let’s eat least 30 minutes she was going on and on and on.
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And then she paused. He says, Oh, well I’ve been doing a lot of talking. How about you, what are you doing these days.
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And I said, Well, I’m getting ready to head out. I was going to do a program at Los Angeles. I said, I’m getting ready to head out to Los Angeles for a program. She interrupts me and says, Oh, I remember I was in Los Angeles. Three years ago, and we did that, and she’s back at it again.
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Like why do people do that, why don’t they listen more and noticing someone else and listening to them, caring for them is Angela Myers talked about their and her article
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That’s really the key. So here’s what I want you to do. Make it your goal to notice somebody else notice what they’re doing. Notice what’s going on.
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What is on their mind and as you do that, that’s going to give you an advantage.
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Not only will you help them. And if it’s a sales situation. Yeah, that’ll be nice, but I think just as a human being, you’re connecting with them. And here’s another really advantage for you.
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You get a chance to learn more about other people as you start studying them and you see who they are and what they do.
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That’s really important as well reminds me of a book that I just finished today. One of the best books I’ve read in a long time and I’ve read a lot of good ones from an author.
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Who has written several books I’ve read every one of his books at least everyone I think he’s written and every one of the books is really, really good. I’m using that word every carefully.
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And this author is Robert Greene that’s GR EA in he Robert Greene, he wrote the 48 laws of power, he wrote the 50th Law. He wrote, The Art of Seduction you wrote mastery and this new one is called The Art of human
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You will mean what. Matter of fact, I’m forgetting it right now. Here in the midst of all this, but here’s what I’m gonna do. Let me share my screen again.
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So I’m going to come back here and do this just just just us here today I’m gonna share my screen on there. And then I’m going to launch a program that I’ve got over here.
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I can see it somewhere over there. I want to see if I can find my Kindle. And let’s see. And you know, I don’t have that on there either. Oh well. Well, this is what we call live
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And it’s keeping it real laws of human nature. Yeah, that’s it. Nevermind. So the laws of human nature is what it is.
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And I it’s one I would highly recommend. He talks about studying others look at other people instead of judging and thinking, oh, they’re not good or bad or something. I have to admit I’ve been guilty of
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When somebody does something like, oh, it shouldn’t do that. Who they should do this instead of doing that.
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He challenges us in his book, and I would challenge you step back, kind of listen to what they’re saying. Really listen carefully and how you can help them.
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Think of ways that you can help others, hey, I’d love to hear from you. You’re seeing this either here on Facebook or on YouTube or maybe we’re on steam it
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Or hearing about it in different places. Let me know what you think. How have you noticed that noticing people
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Really helps. Have you seen that. Is it something that you have seen others do.
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I have seen people that do that and really care about one person that I can think of right now. Who does that exceptionally well is Patricia Fripp
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Patricia Fripp is a friend of mine. Hi, Patricia if you’re out there for it. I hope you are having a great day, but she
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Really notices out there. She listens to them. She cares about what’s going on with them. You can tell it’s not just a Flynn. Hello. How you doing, and then jumps into
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Patricia Fripp is the one who does it. Right. And people like it. Susan Rowan is another person. Hi Susan hope you are doing well.
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And she really does care, she’s written books about connecting and you’ve heard that term working room. Well, she’s the one that came up with that.
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She’s written books about it and has done very well travels around the world, speaking about. She is a person. You ever get a chance to know her.
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Get to do that, you will be delighted when you see a wonderful human being that is just teeming with great ideas with an exuberance for living.
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And she demonstrates this, I want you to do this. Find people in your life that do it right, that really do care that when you’re talking with them in a conversation
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You hear them and they really do follow up. And when they ask, How are you doing, they’re interested
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I think they really do follow up and remember what they’re doing and try to emulate the best traits that they have
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Well, I’m looking forward to hearing from you, I’m Terry Brock and thank you for joining me here on this wonderful little tool called Facebook Live
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And we’ve got the ability to use this with zoom. I’m using zoom. So I could share screen and do a lot of other things. But I’d like to hear from you.
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I do a lot of work with people in many different areas and coaching on relationship marketing technology, things like that. And I’d love to hear from you on areas where you have seen
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Hey noticing someone else really makes a difference. So I look forward to hearing from you. Have a wonderful day, and thank you so much for joining me.