We all make mistakes. This is part of being human. We all look back and think, “If only such and such didn’t happen” or “If only I had done this differently.”
But living in the land of “if only” can be detrimental to you now and in the future. It is easy to blame someone or something for a bad experience in the past. Such thinking is not only demoralizing, it also condemns you to living a life of regret and feeling sorry for yourself.
Stop living in the regret of what you didn’t do or what could have been. Some say they had an idea similar to what another company is now successfully doing: “If only I had generated that social media idea I had back when Facebook was getting started.”
Sometimes people will regret that someone else didn’t come through for them as they had wished. “If only they had bought that product from me, I’d be rich today.”
Stop it already! The past is not the world we live in, even though we might long for an imagined “good old days” in the past. Prepare yourself for a continually changing new normal. Break out of the seductive and dangerous thoughts of “if only.”
The if-only syndrome
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