Do you ever have those times when people make you angry?
Do you even have times when people you’re depending on let you down and make you mad?
Well, this video is for you. I talk about what is really happening and how you are always in control.
You get to decide how you’re going to react.
US Navy SEALs know this and their leaders are instructed regularly that “Calmness is contagious. They know that if a leader becomes overly emotional, scared, bitter, yelling, or embraces other negative actions, those following that leader are impacted in a very negative way. People feel that if the leader is losing it, they will also.
However, the opposite is delightfully true. If a leader shows calm, resolve, and a disciplined approach, even in the midst of extreme danger, they feel they can handle it.
Think of how a skilled, professional, seasoned airline pilot will get real serious and deliberately calm in a crisis. She/he knows that flying off the handle (so to speak!) will not help save the plane and passengers. Rather, it is incumbent on that pilot to remain calm, resourceful, and do whatever it takes to carefullly and safely get that plane back on the ground.
Calmness has a way also of marshaling your thoughts and bringing out the best in you.
Watch the video for more insights as to what you can do to bring out the best and remain calm, even in extremely difficult situations.
It is up to you to decide which way you are going to react. Do you scream? Do you become violent? (hope not!) Do you decide, instead, to use it as a way to “Practice your patience” and learn how to be calm even in the midst of a terrible situation?
Enjoy this video and I look forward to hearing from you.
Remember, in all situations YOU are the one in control. You get to decide how you’re react.
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Also, here’s a transcript of the video for your reference. No, it is not perfect, but it is helpful and I wanted to make this available to you. Please let me know if this helps. Thank you!
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Well, hello there. This is Terry and I wanted to send you a message about
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Something that happened to me early this morning and a real important principle from that that can help you in
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All kinds of particularly trying situations. This morning I was going for the annual lab work and things. Matter of fact, still got my
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bandage on here. There we go. You know, they check all fluid levels and make sure all systems are operating within normal parameters and
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Over there. Then next week, I get a chance to see the doctor who’s going to look it over. I’m feeling great. Everything’s fine.
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I think, but I always like to have a medical professional my doctor, I look at it, and he’ll look it over and say, Oh, this looks good. This, you need to work on this area a little bit here. That’s good.
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But while I was there. It was interesting. I arrived way into earn plenty of time beforehand. That’s the thing I like to do, and I got there and they’re looking through the paper and she went through all the paper.
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On it literally went over a folder of paper, there must have been about 40 pieces of paper, looking for my name and everything on there.
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Couldn’t find it. They want to know if we had faxed it over. I think that was the term they use facts.
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Facts. I’ve heard of that somewhere before. I think it’s right up there with black phones and rotary dials and I’m thinking if they’re using facts.
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Um, what other advanced technologies are they using here. I don’t know. Anyway, that’s another thing. So I started thinking, ooh, I don’t like this. This is good.
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And I thought, you know, I can get really upset. You know, I could blow. I’ve seen a lot of my friends.
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My speakers and bless your hearts talk about, oh, this airline was terrible. All the restaurant was terrible. Oh, that hotel was really bad. It was terrible. Oh, they’re good. They’re no good. Don’t go
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I thought you know what good does that do
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You know, to know that you had a bad experience on an airline and probably others have had good experience. I might have had a good or bad experience but
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Really doesn’t matter. What matters is how you react to it and you see that’s the whole key. The way that you react is always up you
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That’s where I was reading something over there. So all something that we just happened to be the perfect thing. It was a calmness creates this
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Ability to stay together. It’s contagious calmness creates contagiousness and calmness is contagious and something the Navy SEALs.
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Send it to the leaders who communicate it to the followers as well all up and down the line and chain of command.
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That calmness is contagious and you see also the flip side is true. Someone gets angry and frustrated and scared when we’re going to do that’s contagious also
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And so when I would recommend to you is be very, very careful, understand that you are in control.
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There are times like at the hospital there when I had to. By the way, I couldn’t they couldn’t take care of it. I had to go upstairs to where I was into my doctors. I was like three floors up there.
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And they hadn’t arrived. So I stood there was no chairs in the hall. I just stood there for about 15 minutes or so. And I thought, you know,
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It’s up to me. I don’t have to get upset about this. I can choose to be upset. I can choose to be angry or say, Oh, they’re bad or whatever. Put a post out on Facebook, but
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No big deal. Just a little thing I waited for a little while and a wonderful guy named Nick was running around their necks on, he said, Can I help you sir.
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I was here for. Oh, let me check and say, oh yeah, they didn’t get the paper on this done. So he just press. He said, let me get my laptop and he ran and got his laptop.
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Tied into the computer punch a few buttons and then gave me a printout of a couple of pages in here, you take that down to him. We’re all set. And I thought, it’s nice to have a mic.
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In your life sometimes you’re not that fortunate to have a nick standing by. It’s going to help you but Nick Thank you very much. Have you ever watched this really appreciate it and
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I took it down there gave them the the paper and they went through did all the things they do in a really professional good way down there. But you see the point is, it’s up to you.
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How you react is 100% in your control and that calmness is contagious. I love the way that Eleanor Roosevelt said it would you said no one can make you angry without your permission.
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You have to give permission. It’s completely up to you. They can do whatever they want, you can’t control. What’s going to happen to you and bad things do. Yes, the airlines are going to do.
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Some things that are making you unpleasant yes restaurants are going to be bad. Yes. Hotel when he has all kinds of other things running the band from time to time. But you know what
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You are in control and you can decide how you’re going to react in every situation Viktor Frankl wrote a book called Man’s Search for Meaning it’s a classic on this, he was
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An Austrian psychiatrist who was in prison under the Nazis in both Auschwitz and cow both up is a psychiatrist.
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He saw what was happening. He came away with the realization. It is always up to us how we respond
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How do we respond. Some in Auschwitz and CO just got so distraught and terrible they committed suicide themselves or they did something to get the cell central gas chambers.
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Others said no, I’m going to hang on. I’ve got a loved one. I’ve got a son. I’ve got a daughter, I’ve got a cousin. I’ve got someone I need to go back and see
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Or others wanted to hang on just so they can get back at the cards, whatever it was they had a meaning.
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They had that meaning, and that was Victor frankel’s book Man’s Search for Meaning and so I would ask you, what is your meaning.
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And I’ll betcha, it is not to get angry about you. You feel justified if you do that, but you’re also justified in being calm.
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And being in control. Think about it. And I hope this helps you. Hey, I’m Terry Brock and I’m looking forward to hearing from you. And by the way, I got to share with you right now.
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I’m out here enjoying calm myself out on the balcony and look around this. They I’m looking out over the lake. There is a calming effect.
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For me it’s like it’s nice to do it even on a it’s in the middle of the day right now kind of warm here in Orlando and that’s okay.
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Even in the midst of that. You know what I can sit down here like this. And I can then decide I am going to get a chance to be with you. I’m going to get a chance to talk with you.
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And have a great time. So thank you very much for joining me and I’m looking forward to hearing from you. I hope that you have a wonderful day.